The Waiting Game

Updated: Sep 24, 2020

I've been a bit distracted lately. I just started taking classes online in pursuit of my master's degree. I decided why not get a higher degree when the world is coming to an end?

I'm joking, but not really.

I decided to get my degree because I'm not where I want to be in my career. I work as an administrative assistant. Yes, my weekdays are spent answering phone calls, making copies, faxing, and often acting as a technician when people are having technical issues with the software.

Although I graduated in 2017 with a bachelor's in journalism and mass communication, I'm not working at my dream job. Not even close. After graduating, I realized I didn't want to be a journalist. I didn't want to spend my life chasing a story and making pennies on the dollar.

I realized I wanted to be a part of effective change. So, I decided to pursue an MA in communications to work as a VP of communication for a local non-profit organization. I figured maybe getting a higher degree would give me the advantage. Maybe I could cut corners. Probably not. I'll probably have to take a low salary entry-level position and work my way up the latter like everyone else. Sad face.

Next year, I'll be 30. It's exciting, but also terrifying. I always thought things would be different at 30. I had envisioned my life differently. At 30, I thought I would be engaged, own a house, be well-traveled, and have the career of my dreams. Sadly, I have none of these things.

I often look at other women who have these things and wonder what I did wrong. Why them and not me? Were they more tenacious in going after what they wanted? Is it just luck that they have the man, job, and perfect life? When is it going to happen for me?

Are You on a Timeline post is about the pressure we feel to be at a certain place in our lives by a certain age. I believe the same is true when we compare our lives to others. So how do you stop comparing?

Irene Elias gives great advice on the topic in her post, When is it Going to Happen. She list 5 key points to keep in mind when you feel impatient with life. First, we have to feel we deserve what we desire and feel that we're worthy of it. Second, we must use our free will to choose and not have a victim mentality. Third, we must believe that it is possible. Fourth, we must allow divine timing to take control. And lastly, we must assess our spiritual growth.

As women, we have to realize that we're exactly where we should be in our lives. Our circumstance is tied to our purpose. What are your thoughts? Do you compare yourself to your friends, coworkers or family? How do you move past the comparisons? Tell me your thoughts. Comment below.

With love,


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